Josie - I TOTALLY know what you're going through!! My husband and kids have gone through "phases" with my IBS... They understand, they don't understand. Number one thing for him to remember is that you did not choose to have IBS - none of us did. He's right - you can't "plan" certain things because of the uncertainty of IBS but you had it when he met you and you married despite it. Two years you've been married and he's already whining? Jeez... I've had it for 20 of our 22 years together. I have a feeling that he has never understood the impact of IBS. Of course, neither did we until we started to cancel dinner engagements, party invitations, weekend fishing trips, etc. One thing we do however is talk about it a lot. It is extremely important to do that. If you feel that you're "depressed" it probably is from the IBS - it is absolutely overwhelming - your life completely revolves around it and it sucks. I did find some "steps" that may help similar to the AA steps here: http://www.tenresolutions.org/3-4.html Good luck and don't EVER think you're alone
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Re: Help my husband to cope with MY IBS
Josie - I TOTALLY know what you're going through!! My husband and kids have gone through "phases" with my IBS... They understand, they don't understand. Number one thing for him to remember is that you did not choose to have IBS - none of us did. He's right - you can't "plan" certain things because of the uncertainty of IBS but you had it when he met you and you married despite it. Two years you've been married and he's already whining? Jeez... I've had it for 20 of our 22 years together. I have a feeling that he has never understood the impact of IBS. Of course, neither did we until we started to cancel dinner engagements, party invitations, weekend fishing trips, etc. One thing we do however is talk about it a lot. It is extremely important to do that. If you feel that you're "depressed" it probably is from the IBS - it is absolutely overwhelming - your life completely revolves around it and it sucks. I did find some "steps" that may help similar to the AA steps here: 
