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Re: reality check- advice needed
07/20/04 03:00 PM

ChristineM

Reged: 05/31/04
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Cindy,

I have been down this road with my husband before. A lot of men are EXCELLENT secret-keepers, which is admirable in general but potentially frustrating in a marriage.

The truth is that you didn't really *need* to know that information, but there's a feeling of betrayal that comes from knowing your husband kept something from you. That's a scary feeling!

In general, I think secrets in a marriage are a bad idea (unless it's a happy surprise or something). If it were me, I would have a conversation with my husband that IN THE FUTURE, he should not make promises to keep information from me, because it hurts the bond/connectedness/openness between us, and I would let it go at that. He probably just didn't think about how it would feel from your point of view.

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Christine

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reality check- advice needed
crc
07/20/04 02:48 PM

more importantly...
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07/21/04 06:10 AM

One Opinion -- Since You Asked For it
Bevvy
07/20/04 05:50 PM

Re: One Opinion -- Since You Asked For it
crc
07/21/04 04:34 AM

Re: reality check- advice needed
barbie
07/20/04 05:03 PM

Re: reality check- advice needed
ChristineM
07/20/04 03:00 PM

Thanks - good advice
crc
07/20/04 03:04 PM

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