Hey there...
First off, a big internet hug to you. This situation sucks, and I'm really sorry. To tell you the truth, and I know I'm alone here, I don't really believe that women are more emotional than men. I think society lets us express our emotions more easily, and so we learn how to do it better. I think men have all the same emotions, but keep them surpressed, or pretend they're something else, or refuse to talk about them because they don't know how (Obviously this is not true for all men).
This, I think, might be part of your problem. In this case I would make myself very very busy doing other things with friends, and planning your life at your new school, and generally trying to ignore your misery the best you can. Either he'll realize he's being a jerk (and with a paper on an extension hanging over his head, he could be stressed out and taking it out on you easily), or he won't. Either way, sitting around being miserable and sad wouldn't get you anywhere.
To tell you the truth, Eric and I lived several thousand miles apart at different times. I went to England for a year by myself and saw him for three weeks at Christmas... I had to move down to Texas for five months before he found a job etc. So I understand wanting to do things on your own before you get married (for real, since living together is close).
When I got to England I missed him terribly, but I wouldn't have wanted him there. It was just something I needed to do by myself to be a grown-up. I was really happy to come home to him though!!
So if it turns out not to be stress, but what he really wants, then I agree with Bev... you need to do this for him because you love him.
Anyway, that's all just my 2 cents. And I'm no Dr. Phil!!!
I'll be thinking about you.
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