Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Does This Ever Sound Familiar, Ashley!

Hi Ashley,

Girlfriend, I'm afraid I agree with China Gal. Your gentleman friend wants time apart. He's upset with you now because you hit him where it hurts; that is, you nailed him.

I'm sure he's the greatest guy EVER, I have no doubt about it. And yeah, I'm also sure you guys have the best time together. But that doesn't mean he wants to be with you 24/7 -- at least right now he does THINK he does.

Back in 1960, when my first fiance went away to college, it was far from my college. That was what we both wanted (well, it's what HE wanted) -- not to be away from me so much, but just to be on his own, to do his own thing. I had to let him have his space; I had no choice. So, okay, I went to Richmond, and he went to Blacksburg. Believe me, pretty lady, absence most DEFINITELY makes the heart grow fonder! Oh yeah! By Christmas, he had a ring on my finger, and we had plans to marry that following summer when school was out.

It turned out my beautiful fiance was killed shortly after our engagement, just before we were to get married. But that's another story.

I know you feel terrible, I understand how you feel, but you're not going to win him over by arguing with him and trying to convince him to want to be with you. You're going to have to let him learn ON HIS OWN how truly great you are to be with and how much he misses you. Put this behind you for now -- FOR NOW -- and enjoy him for the remaining time you have together. Do your own thing without him, and let him do his. I'll bet you anything that, just like my Gary, he'll end up putting a ring on your cute finger by next Christmas.....

..... Of course, who knows what might happen by then? A gal as cute as you isn't gonna be around forever; some guy is gonna come along and grab you right up -- and that's just something your CURRENT gentleman friend has to risk.

I'm sorry that this isn't what you want to hear, but Cutie-Pie, I've been there. That's my story, and I'm sticking with it.

Smooches,
Bevvy

P.S.: One more thing. You said, "I am finally becoming worried about giving to much to someone who won't give much in return." Can you imagine how awful I would feel right now if I had worried about giving too much to my Gary? I have spent my life with no regrets about him, knowing I gave him everything I had to give -- just before he died.

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<img src="http://home.comcast.net/~letsrow/smily3481.gif">Bevvy

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