Wow... I'm so sorry Jules and Michele that that stuff happened to you.
We went to Christian church when I was little (the kind of Church that's "just Christian") But we had similar problems... my sister kept getting beat up in Sunday School and no one did anything about it. The minister (who had a young wife and child) got caught naked in the Church Secretary's closet. They started spending all of their time collecting money for a new building and none of it on religion. So we stopped going. I really liked singing in the choir and playing handbells, but not the rest of it.
Now, my husband is an atheist and I probably am as well. I have a lot of friends who are devout believers in their religions, and I respect them. I haven't had good experiences with a lot of facets of religions, but I try to look at every person as an individual and not make sweeping judgements about anyone based on what religion they say they are.