Hi Kelly,
My husband can help you out here. After I read your post, I turned to him and asked him how he felt about ME and MY IBS -- then I read him your post.
Hubby and I have been married 37 years. It's only been the past 4-5 years that my IBS has been hard on both of us. His reaction to your post is this:
He said, first of all, he has a commitment to me -- he made a commitment 37 years ago -- and he will always stick by it. I asked him how he would feel if he wasn't married to me, if we had lived together 6 years, would he still feel that way? He replied that he loved me before we were married, and believes he would definitely have stuck by me regardless of whether we were married or not. He said he understands how your boyfriend feels -- after all, you're both young, and young people like to get out and go places and do things -- BUT the bottom line is how much he cares for you. If he does care, Kelly, he'll get over this and accept your disability. If he doesn't, you don't want anything to do with him. As my hubby said, YOU NEED SUPPORT! That's from my hubby, not me, although I totally agree with him.
Hope this is some help to you.
Your friend, Bev
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