I'm falling asleep here, but just checked in on the boards and saw your posts. This sucks! I hope you two can find some way to be understanding with each other in the middle of all that stress and emotion. Not easy to do at all. Hang in there and good luck with everything.
ps. flare up = diarrea! Your post made me laugh out loud! He didn't know what it meant? What else could it be - that not so fresh feeling? Its either too much poop coming out, or not coming out or else cramps usually combined with one of the former - thats sort of the whole range of possibility. I certainly hope he is going to face the reality of your experience and soon.
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