I have been thinking for a long time about cutting out the final animal products and becoming vegan or almost vegan. This would be for conscience reasons. Of course, I am married so it is not that easy!
Today I started reading a weight loss book called "Skinny B***h". It is more than a diet book but turned out to be a pro-vegan book really. I was so upset by the chapter describing slaughterhouses I decided right then to cut out poultry (already don't eat red meat & dairy). I am not so sure about fish yet. I certainly knew a great deal about the cruelty of slaughterhouses, being a USHS member, but this was the last straw.
I tried to tell my hub about how I was feeling and that I didn't want to buy poultry anymore and tried to get him to read the chapter. He has been very good about my diet changes in the past but this time he freaked out. This evening he tore up the book and told me I had to cook poultry for him. I never suspected him to be that kind of man. It was like I didn't know him. Normally he isn't the I'm The Man kind of guy. He said I was being extreme and needed to settle down. He did make some good points about not being able to do something about every bad thing in the world and about me being very single-minded and getting high-horsey. (It is hard not to get that way about a lot of things!!!)
At the end he said I could switch to buying all organic meats. The book said that organic meats are generally butchered in the same inhumane ways regular meats are, but I suppose organic local farmers probably butcher humanely. I also feel buying local farm eggs from people that have a few chickens is probably ok too. Questions would need to be asked though.
So I don't know what to do. My husband really insulted me with the arguments he made and the things he said. It is now a much bigger issue of course. I could personally be vegan very easily but to cook his food and my food would be too time consuming and I don't want to buy meat at all anyway. I told him I wasn't telling him what he couldn't eat; I just didn't want to buy it. He could still eat whatever he wanted (like at restaurants- not veal of course!). This did not settle it at all. He was mad that basically I made a decision for him. I decided not to buy and cook poultry and that meant his life would change (or something). He seemed to (out of nowhere) say that it was my duty to cook dinner for him. I pointed out we had several friends whose wives never really cooked. Anyway it was terrible. I had planned chicken for Monday and Wednesday (I had reluctantly talked him into one meatless night a week previously but it doesn't always happen). I guess I hadn't wanted to throw out the meat in the freezer and so I will probably use it up and see what happens.
Sorry this is so long! It is embarrassing to talk about a fight to close friends and I really need 'veggie' advice!
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IBS-A for 20 years with terrible bloating and gas. On the diet since April 2004. Remember this from Heather's information pages:
"You absolutely must eat insoluble fiber foods, and as much as safely possible, but within the IBS dietary guidelines. Treat insoluble fiber foods with suitable caution, and you'll be able to enjoy a wide variety of them, in very healthy quantities, without problem." Please eat IF foods!
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Any vegans? help!
