I'm so glad you two are on the boards. What you've both said is exactly how I feel. I decided yesterday, after reading your comments, to look for a lupus support group -- and I found one nearby! You're right -- people, even those who are close to you and love you, can't comprehend the pain we live with. It's a very lonely and scary place to be when you're in so much pain you can't think, you can't see beyond that pain. Big hugs to both of you and to anyone else on the boards who's suffering physically and/or emotionally. I'm so glad we're here for each other!