Re: People Pleasers?
10/15/07 06:47 PM
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I understand what you mean. For me, whether I say Yes or No, it's not to please the person, but it's for me to try to be normal. For example, back in May my friend wanted to go to Coney Island (15 minute train ride from where I live). Immediately after I said Ok, I started feeling antsy 1. because I was afraid to get sick and 2. because he wanted to leave within 15 minutes. I would say that my saying Ok was 1/4% to not let him down but definitely 3/4%for me to be normal like I used to be. Don't you know that the damn train's emergency brakes activated 1 stop before our's and we were in there for about 15 minutes. Talk about mind over matter! Even after getting to Coney I was still fighting that antsy feeling. Finally, it subsided and then I felt "normal". "Normal" in quotes because in the back of my mind, I'm always thinking about how abnormal I've become.
But I digress. You know, you can't make everyone happy. It's the nature of the beast. Sometimes I'm given the answer I don't want to hear but c'est la vie, right?
For those that can't deal, 
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Wendy IBS A thru Z 
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