Hey, I'm brand new to this site and the message boards, but I saw your posting and wanted to respond. Living in a situation as you describe is certainly not good for your IBS. I myself went through the same situation when my ex's friend came to live with us indefinitely. In my situation, even though I expressed my concerns to my ex, he never seemed to care enough to change the situation. Upon reflection, he probably preferred having his friend there than having to deal with our relationship one on one. I think his friend was a crutch. But I'm not you. And one thing I'm not clear on from your original post is whether your bf and his friend were already living together and you moved in, or whether you and your bf were living together and his friend moved in. If it is the former, it is a difficult situation as you made the choice to move in not only with your bf but the friend. I think the best bet would be to sit down with your bf and try to figure out realistically how to get a place on your own--just you and your bf. As someone else noted, if that will not work, you might have to see if you can get your own place without your bf until the situation changes. If your bf really cares about you, he should be sympathetic to your concerns and try to work something out. And if you just cannot get out of the house, then try to limit your time around the friend as much as possible--go out and take a walk if he starts to get to you or leave the room. I hope something works out. I've been there, done that, so I sympathize.
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