Chickey, I totally understand where you are comming from. The year before last, before we got married and were living on our own again we were taking care of my father in laws house while he was doing his long distance trucking thing. What we didn't know when we agree-ed to this job was that his brother from vancouver would be living at the house as well for *a couple months durring the summer* the couple months turned into April-Dec of that year.
Durring that time, he was an alcoholic, he snapped at my husband and myself alot (and I am not the type of person that can handle yelling one little bit)and the guy even threw a dish and smashed it to pieces.. not to mention the fact that durring this time he was suppose to be working to pay his own bills around the house but no.. Either his father or my husband and I had to cover his behind. (He is 36 years old, has been in a two year college program for the last 3 years and my father in law is in thousands of dollars of debt because he is paying all of the school fee, tuition, living expenses, cell phone, laptop, ect.)
Not a happy situation. At that time I had no idea what to do as I was depressed and sick and just hearing him walking around upstairs would be enough to freak me out or make me feel ill.
In the end there was only a couple things that ended up helping me through that time and making it at least tolerable until we were able to move out this April. 1. If you can, find a concillor to talk to. I was visiting mine until it was too cold for me to get down there (i don't drive haha) and she taught me techiniques on how to deal with him and the stress. 2. if you are having trouble with your bf, try to explain to him that you still love him but that it is a little trying on your nerves having the friend constantly around. (maybe make him watch *you, me and dupree* haha)
But ultimately know that you are not alone and this board is a great place to vent without hesitation.
and if I may also suggest. *the feeling good handbook by Dr. David Burns* it's great to stress/anxeity/depression.. It's one of those books that teaches you to stop being negative..
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