Reged: 12/01/05
Posts: 347
Loc: Medicine Hat. AB. CAN
Chickey, I understand completly.. Before I was stable I was a D with alot of pain.. My fiance completly understands because he has his moments (mostly after mass amounts of hot sauce )where he makes himself sick and isn't really interested in sex for that night.
As for lack of drive, I understand where you are comming from.. my fiance and I work damn near opposite shifts so sometimes it gets to the point where if we don't do it on say sunday @ 1pm then it isn't going to happen for another week or more and that kinda takes the fun out of it. It also puts alot of pressure on it..
As for ways to get in the mood.. I fully admit to it, I'm a gal that enjoys watching porn.. I got to pick one out for my bday this last year and it was the best thing I could have purchased.. I also find that having a hot bubble bath and doing whatever it is that you have to do to feel really relaxed is a plus AND if you can convince your DH to purchase an erotic massage book.. It's a good thing.. If I need help to relax I sometimes get a massage and the book teaches all the little pressure points..