I hope your mom is doing well with her treatment. I think they have ruled out Lupus because of the lack of skin rash and negative ANA but I think the CTD is still an option. Do you know what meds your mom is on and do they help her? Does she have problems with her eyes, like redness and pain?
On a personal side note, I remember you said your gyn reminded you of your clock ticking....have you ever been checked for Lupus? Auto-immune diseases can be hereditary. It is one of the top reasons why girls have fertility issues and miscarriages. I would hate for you or anyone else to suffer through the things I did when I was trying to have a baby.
-------------------- Taking it one day at a time.....