She does have a huge void in her life, but I'm not sure what. She has a loving church family (she's the pastor's wife) and many step-children that love her, as well as me, my husband, and my step-dad. My theory is that when she was about 35 years old, her father, whom she was very close to, died from brain cancer. Her first husband (my father) said after that happened, she always said she was doomed to get cancer. Well, she ended up with breast cancer a few years ago. Thank God it was caught early, didn't spread, and she didn't have to have chemo treatments...only radiation. My step-dad told me the other day that she has never come out and said it, but he feels she thinks she has cancer again. But none of her bloodwork or medical exams indicate that. I think she has never gotten past her father's death and eating and lying in bed is comfort for her. It was suggested to me by a friend to talk to her doctor and see if he can have a heart-to-heart with her (she really thinks a lot of the doc). I'll call his office this week and make an appointment for myself to discuss things with him. I may also look for a local support group, like overeaters' anonymous. I'll tell her I'm taking her out, but not tell her where, and go with her. She may get mad, but she'll get over it. Besides, I would be her ride home  I don't worry about her getting mad, I just don't want to ever hurt her feelings. I tell her all the time that the things I say are out of love. Thanks for the advice and encourgement!
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