I have this problem and I always have. I feel guilty when I tell someone "no". For instance–and most recently–my mom has invited my husband and I to go to the local Air Show this Sunday with her, my dad, and my brother. Well it also falls on my parent's anniversary (45 years). My husband said right away that he didn't want to go. He has a project he's working on. I was thinking about going, and then with this terrible heat, I decided not to go. I knew it fell on my parent's anniversary, but nothing was ever said that that was the reason for going. At first it was just going to be my mom, brother, myself and my husband who would possibly be going. My dad works out of town in the summers and so we didn't think he'd be able to make it home this weekend. Well, turns out dad will be home this weekend and so I just got an e-mail from my mom saying that he would be home for their anniversary and would be going to the Air Show. She said..."I know it will be hot, but I'm taking umbrellas. If you guys change your mind about going." I still don't want to go because it is supposed to be 95° Sunday plus being on the paved area at the airport for the show in the direct sun would be unbearable for me. I'm surprised my mom is considering going in this heat. But I know she thinks this would be something special to do on their anniversary. I feel so guilty for saying we won't be going. She has no problem telling us "no" once in a while when we invite them to things. But when I say "no" I can sense her disappointment. Does anyone know what I mean? It's eating me up and I've felt like this most of my life. It's worse now that I am married and can't do everything she wants me to do.
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Does anyone else have this problem?
