Reged: 02/28/06
Posts: 641
Loc: Sheffield, England
Just emailed you my proper reply, and how deferring was for me. I'm a really good example of how it can go wrong, but that doesn't mean it's not perfect for you!
It's a long email - if nothing else it might put you to sleep if you're still struggling!
Sending more (((((((MASSIVE HUGS)))))))))!!! I know you'll get through this, and do whatever is right for you