I haven't read the other posts for I do have some thoughts to share:
1. You can't take this on. It is too much stress for you. You can help your friend find counseling thru the school or a local church.
2.Abortion would not be my choice either and being an adoptive parent, I know that there is a couple "out there" that would love to parent her baby and in the US (not sure about your country), you can choose the level of openess that a birthmom would have with the childs adoptive parents. Surely there is an aoption agency that could talk with her and should she need an objective ear I am happy to help. I also have a ton of resources all in the US but the internet is a lovely thing.
3.As to the guy....not much of a man is he? Again, she needs a counselor to help her deal with this. Not her friends...but someone who is trained and has experience in this area. Please have your friend get some help.
I hope this helps and that I have not overstepped anywhere.
-------------------- Have a blessed day! Rachel
Formerly poochibelly...
I have IBS but it doesn't have me!