In hashing this out with a friend today, she said this. I am trying to chew on it and decide if I agree or not. I am of the mind that a person's feelings for you come OUT in what they say and how they treat you. They can't just say "I love you" and then act that way, expecting the words to speak louder than the actions or personality, as she refers to it. What do you think? Here's what she said:
To me, you are dealing with a very DIFFICULT personality type, being your mother makes it even harder to deal with. And I think maybe you have been internalizing how her personality comes out for so long that you can't separate that from how she really feels. I think she loves you, but doesn't know how to relate in a considerate, helpful, kind manner with people, so when she talks to you at all, it comes out as if she doesn't love you, or you see it that way, instead of just that she is a person who is self consumed and can't see what that does to others. She wants to love and communicate with you, I think, but doesn't know how, other than her usual ways, which you can't take.
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Take care,
Michelle
...the greatest of these is LOVE. (I Cor 13)
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So I have a question for you and any others here....
