Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | I don't know if any of this will help, but...

I'll just start babbling, and maybe it'll help, or maybe I'll just be... um... babbling. But hey, it's worth a try, right?

Thankfully, I'm the Queen of TMI and totally without shame about it, heh.

For starters, you're completely right that nobody's perfect - of course! - but you might be surprised to know that unevenness is more common than you'd think. I didn't even know that until I was... hmm... well, older than you are now. LOL I had a lot of the same embarassment, because I'm drastically uneven. The difference between the two breasts is more than a full cup size. (As of right now, Lefty is a DD, and Righty is a C.) To look "normal", I wear pads in one side. (Well, when I think to, or when I think it'll matter. Most of the time I don't even think about it anymore - trust me when I say that this WILL matter less as you get older.)

More than the size difference, though, I've been very self-conscious about the shape of them. I'll just say that they seriously lack perk. LOL The nipples point straight down. They've always been that way, ever since I started developing when I was 11 or so... and let's just say that it's only gotten more pronounced with age and weight fluctuations.

I thought the same thing you did, when I was younger - who on earth would ever find them sexy? - but the truth is that not only WILL someone, but "sexy" is a total package deal anyway. You'd be amazed at how invisible our flaws are to the opposite sex (or gender of choice, whatever!), when they're attracted to you & care about you. I've been married & divorced twice & I've dated a lot of men - I know of what I speak.

Not a single one of them was ever repulsed by what I saw as my worst body flaw - in fact, most of them really loved 'em! Go figure!

Anyway, I think that you have a good plan of attack here, for starters. Talking to a gynecologist is a good first step... and I agree, writing it down is an excellent idea. In fact, to fully convey to him/her how this is affecting you, you might want to just print out this post - don't try to make it seem like it's less of a problem to you than it really is, out of fear or embarassment or whatever.

(And by the way, take a deep breath, relax, and don't be afraid of the gyno... honestly, truly, the exam isn't nearly as bad as 99% of women make it out to be. The speculums are typically warmed a little these days, and remember that the "stranger" is a professional who does this all day, every day, and has for years. And it all goes very quickly! Going to a regular doctor's is a hundred times worse!)

I can't say for sure that your doctor is going to agree or disagree that surgery is a good idea. Because of your age, they might recommend waiting, but then, because of the impact this has had on your mental and emotional health, they might think otherwise. Just keep an open mind about what they suggest.

And hey, if you ever need to email to just vent about it, my inbox is always open. I've come to a sort of peace about my weird misshapen breasts, but I know all about the evils of self-image problems and what they can do to you, so I'm at least a sympathetic ear.

*hugs*

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