My daughter had the same problem that you have. I watched her for years cry every year when the weather warmed up, or when she was shopping for a dress for prom and just buying regular clothes. My heart broke for her and it didn't matter how many times I told her that the size of her breats didn't matter it did to her and that was all that was important. Nothing I said made her feel better. She finally did have breast implants, she is 25 now. I think that was the happiest day in her life. The size didn't matter she just wanted to be normal.
I'm not saying this is the best answer for everyone but it was for her. It is good you are going to a woman gyn. so hopefully you will feel more comfortable talking with her. I have found that woman doctors are much more understanding about woman issues than men are. Usually when I go for a physical my doc takes me to her office before I get undressed and talks to me about any problems or concerns that I may have. It is easier to talk when you aren't in one of those paper gowns. Please find the courage to talk to her about your feelings and concerns.
Like Bev said, in 20 years this won't seem like such a big deal but I know that it is now. If you decide that surgery isn't the right thing for you maybe couseling is an option to explore your feelings. There are many men out there who do not care one bit about the size of a womans breast or if they are the same size. Society makes us feel that we must have the perfect body, breast size, etc. to be loved but in reality this isn't true. The women who seem perfect in the magazines are a small miniority. The average woman has flaws and men love us despite those flaws.
We are all here for you and hopefully being able to open up on to us will help give you the courage to open up to others.
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