Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: need help and support - something i've never told anyone about ever

Hi Jaime,
First of all, I think it is perfectly natural for you to be scared and feel the way you do. The media and advertising doesn't let us forget for a minute that unless we are perfect in every way from our breasts to our toes, we will be rejected by all the men in our lives.
I will be 60 years old in three months and my left breast was always bigger than my right breast, my cleavage was bigger on that side . . . and no boy ever noticed. I didn't have a problem about one being misshapen as you seem to have, until I had breast cancer. Then I really had a problem. First of all, I lost a chunk of breast and was left with a scar. But that healed well. But radiation turned my breast into what looked like the bad side of an alligator's foot.
The really awful part was I got cancer in my right breast which was the small one! I told my oncologist that I wanted breast augmentation and she agreed I would be a good candidate for augmentation but after I saw the ruin of a breast I had after radiation I didn't see how that could ever be reversed.
I felt really sorry for my breast and massaged it every day. I am white but my black friends from the West Indies told me to use coconut butter. That is what they used to get rid of scars on their dark skin. Within a few months the alligator skin started to disappear and although it doesn't look quite the same as my bigger breast it looks a whole lot better than it did and I massage it every day.
Not only that, but I have a new boyfriend who loves that breast as much as my bigger, ordinary looking left breast. Again, he doesn't even notice. I had surgery only 16 months ago, doll.
But you do what you have to and don't worry about it. For Pete's sake don't feel guilty about it. We let society dictate to us too much. It's your body and no one else's.

Colynda.

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