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As scared as she is (and I can only imagine---parenthood scares me and I've got the most devoted husband ever), she has to put her baby first. Does she want her son to grow up in an environment clearly lacking in love and support? Does she want his example of a serious relationship to be one that isn't working? Being a single mom WILL be hard, but if she has the support of her family and friends, she can do it. And better for her son to live with only one parent who is dedicated and loving, than to be with both where neither are happy and thus not supportive.
And she WILL meet a man---if she can get herself together, take care of her son, and take care of herself, she'll be able to get through this and some great guy will come along and find her. Unfortunately, single parenthood is not as uncommon as it used to be, and as a result, I think people are less afraid of dating people who have kids. ESPECIALLY when the situation is a healthy one. I think the sooner she gets out of this relationship, the better it will be for her and her son both. Why traumatize him?

I'm not sure if it's best for her to "surprise" leave him, but if she communicates it properly and makes herself completely available to communicate about custody, it should be ok. It sounds like he shouldn't be surprised if she leaves, they don't sound happy at all. I doubt he thinks things are great either, maybe he'll be relieved. (Crappy, but could be true). If she feels ready to leave, and has a place to go, she should go. The sooner she gets on a better path, the better.
Best of luck to her!

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