Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: I need help my 5 year old wont play by herself

It definately sounds like it is attention seeking. She probably is concerned that the new baby will take you away from her. That would be completely normal behavior. Try to keep in mind that play time is supposed to be fun and if you force her into it it becomes more of a punishment. Does she have any friends that can come over to play with her? When the new baby arrives there will be a of period jealousy but if you include her in preparations and let her know that she will get to help teach the baby how to grow up, she may be more enthusiastic about it. Some children you just have to allow to "sulk it out" for a while. If she wants to just sit on her bed and not play, let her. So long as she is fed and warm and safe, you can't really force in to playing. And eventually she will probably get bored and start playing on her own. If she insists on being with you, then you can tell her how she can help with whatever you're doing. No matter what it is, unless the activity is simply too dangerous, there is always a way to incorporate children in. If you're cleaning the kitchen, she can help put dishes in the washer or throw away garbage. A lot of the kids I've worked with love to sweep. If you're getting ready for baby, you can ask her opinion on where things should go or ask her to hold something for you or teach her how you use different types of baby gear. Basically, if you are trying to encourage the imaginative play, offer the play or to help with what you're doing. If you give in and do what she wants, she'll know that you will do it again. I've been working with children for years and this behavior I've seen time and again. Feel free to e-mail me with any questions. I've probably already dealt with something similar to it. Sorry this is so long but it's right up my alley and I wanted to share my ideas. I've been in childcare for so long. Good luck.

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