The Lamplighter is really nice. We had our reception at the Bayham Community Centre in Straffordville. It was a wholesome, home cooked meal that came out on platters family style. Nice relaxed atmosphere. We even had ice cream sundaes for dessert (I didn't of course). Anyway, you might want to look into community centres. They are often WAY less expensive and the food is home cooked. If I remember correctly, I think we paid 15$ a plate which included all pop and mix for drinks at the bar, AND the evening buffet.
Another idea - your Mom died of cancer right? Here's an idea - a friend of the family's Father died of cancer shortly before her wedding. So instead of wedding favours, each place had a small card saying that "in Lieu of party favours, a donation has been made on your behalf to the Canadian Cancer Society in Loving Memory of ...." I wish I had known that before my wedding. Who likes those silly little favours anyway? It would be a really nice touch to honour and remember your Mother. Just an idea.
My bridesmaids had their dresses made. They all picked out a pattern from Fabricland, we bought the fabric on sale and they made it themselves or had a dressmaker make it. The fabric cost $30 including tax. I was just in a wedding this summer as a bridesmaid and we wore Alfred Angelo. The dress was over $300 plus $50 for alterations plus tax, plus shoes, hair and makeup made it an over $500 event for me. Plus a gift. Whew!
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