Here are big hugs for you Ruchie. You've been given a lot to deal with, give yourself time - and allow yourself to feel what your feeling without feeling down on yourself for being upset, or overwhelmed - Dan
I'm reading a very inspirational book - its called My Grandfather's Blessings by Rachel Naomi Remen. She is a doctor who has crohn's disease herself - she's a former head of pediatrics, who works counseling cancer patients. Its full of short stories of people she has worked with interspersed with recollections of her grandfather who was a rabbi who studied Kabbalah. (but this isn't a kabbalah book at all - not a book for the red string wearing Madonna types!) Not even especially Jewish - but very life-affirming. ANYWAY you might want to check it out at some point.
I just found a link with excerpts - http://www.rachelremen.com/mgb.html
-------------------- Ladies & gentlemen take my advice, pull down your pants and slide on the ice.