I am just so sorry that you have this all going on! How much can a person take you probably ask yourself!?!?! I wish there was something that I could do or say that would take all your pain away
Being informed helps a lot though so read, read, read all about your conditions and educate yourself. You mentioned that if surgery could take IBS completely away, guaranteed, would you have surgery. My answer is probably yes. I've tried dealing with it for 17 or more years and get so frustrated sometimes with it. I'm a big chicken when it comes to any kind of surgery, probably because I've actually never had any. But yes, I think I'd really consider it. Again, if it was guaranteed!!!
Geez, makes my OCD of germs and our antibacterial stuff infactuation look minor to all the things you have going on. You can control these and get past it I know you can. Please keep being your great self and listen to everyone that tell you that you are a great/wonderful person!
Take care my antibacterial friend! HUGE,BIG,SOFT HUGS!!!!