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i'll tell you my mom is a "maryter" as well, but she is in the constant poor me frame, but she loves when mike and i have our proboems, so she can swoop me up and fix it, my mom has been there, but she's put me so much in harm's way as well, it makes me sick.

reading your email, made me almost cry (i'm also emotional becuase i am pregnant...) but i can see how that would be angering. it's a sick pleasure people get in saving someone, and controling it. i've been battling my own demons as well, and i need to post something after christmas, just becuase i don't want to re-kindle any pain anyone else has endured in their lives...it'll make more sense later...

i'm actually not planing anything with my mom this year, mainly for all the stuff she tries to stir up...she's actually triggered alot of stuff between mike and i...which is pretty messed up. and she does try to brainwash me alot...which i have learned she does now...i didn't realize it in the past (mike and my relationship isn't perfect, but we are doing better, and going back to the us we were..we hit a bump, but i've seen she stirred alot of crap up)

anyway...i personally if she brought anything up about how sick i would have gotten, would say "well if you'd taken me to the hospital, i wouldn't have gotten so bad, i have serious problems now becuase of it" or something on that nature, of course i can be less tackful than some, but i feel i'd have to be upfront, i've been with my mom, becuase she put me in harms way, and i've told her i'm mad at her becuase of it. we aren't perfect, i know that...but parent's jobs are to protect their children. i said in an earlier post she allowed her petifile dad live with us (which is my issue for later...becuase it's pretty deep, and mike's been helping me alot with it)

anyway, i honestly think it's not fair that you have to go through something like this, when it's the holidays, it's about being happy...but thats my thought, but if she does bring it up, i'd pull her aside and tell her you want to tlak to her about it after the holidays, say it embarasses you or something, so she wont do it...
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thanks my two cents, i hope it helps...

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