Hi Sinead.
The last time I was seeing a therapist regularly (about four years ago) I was dealing more with issues of my own that stem to certain teenage experiences and such. We did talk some about my family and I remember the therapist saying that I needed to let my mom know when things she said/did hurt me since it didn't seem that she realized it on her own. Well, every time I try to say something about to my mom about anything that she could have possibly done that wasn't completely conducive to her devotion to her family, I receive the guilt trip of a lifetime, so I decided that advice wasn't very productive. Now that I have more insight into the whole problem, it certainly might be a good idea to talk to a therapist about all of it. I've thought about talking to my sister-in-law who's a psychologist, but I don't know if bringing her into the situation would be such a good idea...
On the munchausen's thing, I did look into that a couple weeks ago, and while my mom has some of the characteristics at times, she doesn't fit the whole profile for the disorder. Munchausen Byproxy patients seek attention from the doctors. My mother tends to keep me away from doctors since she wants to be the one that everyone sees as doing everything for her sick daughter. It's also not just a physical thing. Since I have crohns and I really am sick, that "trouble" or "problem" is always present. At other times in my life there have been other problems she's latched onto that arn't physical in nature, but she still is fulfilled by the fact that I have them and then she can try to save me from them. This includes the crappy relationships I've been in at times or problems of overcommittment with work/school. For a long time she was really fixated with my sister's marital problems and I know she made my sister's divorce a much more painful process than it should have been.
But anyways, Will has helped tons at keeping me sane through all of it, so I'm sure he'll also be a stablizing presence during Christmas.
By the way - I remember you posting about issues with your dad awhile back. Things got better for awhile didn't they? Is it still working out for you and all your siblings and your mom? Hope all is well with your family over Christmas too, Sinead!
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