Hi Ginger, My Dad has noticed it a few times but he doesn't deal well with my mom either - he used to get angry and yell at her and really be mean, but that didn't help. Now, he's kind of resigned himself that my mom has issues. The saving thing gets directed at him sometimes, but more at me and my sister. My sister has noticed it and we've talked about it a few times, but agree that mom would NEVER react well if we talked with her about it - she'd be heartbroken, deny everything and guilt us to kingdom come. My brother-in-law has noticed and he thinks my mom's plane nuts. I don't think I could ever talk with her directly about it though - she is clueless that she does this. In her mind, she is devoted, she is "saving" her children and her family again and again. I know that sounds strange, but that's the pattern I see. Maybe it would help to talk more with my sister about it. Should keep it in mind now that she has a little one too, who is often in my mother's care... Thanks Ginger. Min
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