Hi Min,
I had a horrible mother who did not want me and laughed at me when I did something stupid. She was not a nice person and made my beloved father's life a living hell. I became estranged from her right after my father died. That was in 1972.
In 1980, I made an attempt to reconcile with my mother, but it was a disaster. I realized she hadn't changed and would not change, not ever. For my own sanity, I had to cut it off with her permanently. I haven't seen or heard from her since.
I didn't confront my mother about issues that bothered me. It would not have done any good anyway. Once in 1970, she laughed at me over an incident that occurred when I was 6. I could feel the heat rising in my body, until I just couldn't stand it any longer, and I blurted out, "Well, you should be very proud of yourself, laughing at a little six year-old child!" I was surprised at myself, wondering where those words were coming from, but even more surprised at my mother, who just stood there with a big question mark over her head. She didn't have a clue.
Some people just will not change, CANNOT change. I don't know if your mother is one of them, but if so, I would avoid the issues that cause you to be upset, because it is YOU who suffers as a result, not her. I would not mention that you are sick; I would make "nice nice" with her until it is time to leave.
Then I'd turn to my friend, Jack Daniels, and try to forget the entire experience.
Bevvy
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