Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Update: It went pretty badly

Hey guys,

Thanks all for the words of support. I really wish I could have seen some of them before I went into work this morning, but alas I had no time!
I went in to the meeting 45 minutes after starting work. A union shop steward was there, but as I had never met her before it wasn't really that comforting. My Team Leader was there, and another one. Now, I like all the Team Leaders in my job except for ONE GIRL. And of course, it was her that was in the meeting. She is cold, unfriendly and seems not to like me because she caught me "chatting unnecessarily" with someone once while I was on a break.
Anyway, so basically it was horribly embarassing and awkward. They asked what exactly was wrong with me, and why in my interview I told them it was under control. I said it WAS under control, and now it's not. And that I warned them of that in my interview (which, by the way, I didn't have to do!!

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The one I don't like, the snippy one, said to me, "Well, if stress makes you feel worse maybe this job is too much for you. Maybe you just don't belong here" and I was like, "No... no, I don't feel that way at all..." and then they asked if I was stressed. I said I was, but not because of work, and I can handle it. They asked why. I said because of personal reasons, health issues with other members of my family (my mom with cancer, etc) and started to cry because they kept asking me all these questions.
My Team Leader, the nice one, acted really sympathetic but I don't feel like they were supportive of me at all. I was so upset, I didn't want to talk anymore and they kept asking me questions. The longer it went on, the more embarassed I felt. I really just wanted to say I would leave my job if only I could leave the room right that second, and not deal with this anymore.

They said I needed to have a form filled out by my doctor, even though I have already brought in a letter to go over the specifics of "my condition". I may be wrong here, but is that really any of there d@mn business?? I mean, I brought in a letter saying I have a "chronic bowel condition" and that I have been fully investigated and treated, so what else do they want???

The snippy one told me that if I feel worse in the day, I should work night shifts. I told her I would be willing to do that, but I have been advised by both a doctor and a nutritionist that working nights would throw off my whole system and may make me feel worse in the long run. She said something like, "Well, you know, we have all kinds of shifts here and you really shouldn't not work night shifts just because you don't WANT to. You know, we expect our agents to be here when they say they'll be here".

I just feel like cr@p now. The Team Leaders left, and I was left with the union rep and just couldn't hold it together. She gave me a hug, but couldn't really do anything. She said that since I am on probation, there isn't really anything to protect me but she will see what she can do. Then I had to go back to work to do the rest of my shift, with "cry face" and feeling like I would get all weepy every 5 minutes.

The worst part is, I don't know what any of this means. The union rep said that they didn't specifically say it was a first warning, or a disciplinary issue but she said she would find out for sure what they are putting in my file.
I hate this so much. I have never been fired, or even really disciplined at work. I am a good worker, I never skive off work and I am a nice person and people seem to like me there, but I might still lose my job. If I do, I am literally screwed. I need this job.

Sorry to ramble on, I am just really upset about this and I feel really helpless to stop it. I feel like this is really unfair.
My mom keeps asking me about it, and she and Adrian both keep telling me I have to stick up for myself, and make notes of the meetings and fight everything and all this but I don't want to fight! I just want to be NORMAL and not have to worry about all this. I don't want to have a bunch of confrontations about "my rights" and things, I want them to just be respected and adhered to and for everyone to leave me the heck alone, I AM DOING THE BEST I CAN!!!

*takes a breath* Okay, I'm done now. Thanks for listening. I'll update if anything else happens.

Cheers,
--Steph

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