I'm so sorry it has taken me so long to reply to your post. You are so good with advice for me. Being here at work I didn't have time to read your whole post til this morning while I am the only one in the room.
I understand what you are going through. My mom (although NOT hateful like yours) used to make me feel sooooo guilty for not doing holidays the way she wanted them once my husband and I got married (and even before when we were engaged). It still makes me nervous when holidays draw near and I have to decide how we are going to divide our time between our two families since they both live here in the same town. But, as we are together more years it becomes easier to say I'm going to do it the best we can and if it makes anyone upset they will just have to deal with it. It's still hard, though.
In your situation where your mom has been so hateful I would say that what is best for you is to have Christmas the way you want. Take your health into consideration and your relationship with your husband into consideration. Do what makes you happy. You know that you will only be miserable if you are around your mom at Christmastime, right? I know it's hard because she is your mom, but it's not worth it if it will make you miserable. Maybe if you don't see her at Christmas she might realize how her actions have hurt you. I know that's stretching it, but you never know.
I haven't had time to read everyone elses replys. I wish you the best!
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