Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Thanks guys...more update and questions

Thank you guys for your input. I've been in abusive relationships....like really really bad ones where i ended up with bruises...etc...my daughter's father was abusive too....but i've been in verbally abusive relationships too....he's not like what i've been in (my mom was emotionally and verbally abusive to me too) and i've been in alot of therapy from it as well...

my boyfriend is actually really really good with my daughter, and when we argue, we don't really do it around her. I talked to him alittle bit yesterday, and told him that when he says certain things it makes me feel about 2 inches tall....and that i just feel incompetent and stupid, and i know i'm not. so we talked for a little bit, and he'd told me sometimes i do the same thing, which i know i can say mean things and i don' mean to say it that way....

i think he'd be willing to go to a therapist with me, because he'd mentioned it before he wanted to go for himself, becuase he's having a really hard time grieving over his mom's death last year (him and his sisters are having a really hard time with it). so i think it would be good to have a third party with us too....just to shine light on things that may be troubling eachother...

I understand everyone saying GET OUT!! but i don't want to give up that quickly....i really really care about him....and i don't want to seem cliche...but i love him...you know....if we can work on stuff then i'd like it to work, he's understanding MOST of the time.....

we moved in together in june, i'm not sure if i mentioned that.....we didn't really start to have arguments until july-ish....we'd been together for a year and only had a hand full of arguments...and they got resolved faily quickly...so i'm not sure if it's becasue we are getting our bounderies arranged...i dont know...

i need to drop my daughter off at school....but any other ideas or posts are appreciated. i didnt' have time to post yesterday becuase i worked almost all day!!!

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