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PLease don't get mad at me for saying this, but I am concerned for your safety in this relationship. I understand that some people are Type A, and others are Type B and that's what makes the world great.

The problem is, I really feel that this situation could turn abusive. Your fiance sounds a lot like a guy my mom lived with for year. He ended up being abusive verbally and emotionally to me, and physically to a point, and he molested my sister. Now, this may not be the case with your guy, but I have this really strong almost psychic fear about men who are controlling right off the bat.

lyndsey, I can totally understand how you want to do everything you CAN to make this work, but PLEASE do NOT give yourself up to appease. Remembver how well that worked for Hitler?
People who are in dire need of control can turn ugly on a dime. PLEASE, if there is any sign of it getting ugly(aka, verbal abuse, or ONE TIME of abuse) you HAVE to leave, for your sake and your daughter's. The little ones see and feel so much more of what happens than they will ever tell you-they are afraid of hurting their mommies. It took me 20 years to finally tell my mom exactly how I felt. And I speak my mind!

If you feel it's just a phase, make sure it ends within the next few months. After that you could be in too far to get out.

With nothing but concern for you,
Not-Sore-Anymore

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