Gerry; I haven't been on this board very long, but I wanted to let you know you are in our prayers. I can't imagine how hard it must be for you at this time. I will give you a little advice that I heard on the Suze Orman show on CNBC. A lady called in and asked what she should do with her house and some financial decisions as far as the life insurance she had gotten from her husbands policy. The first thing Suze said was if at all possible to not make any major financial decisions for a year. Because the decisions you make in the first year will be made with emotions. She said if you do have to make any major decisions to have your children help you with these decisions if at all possible. She also said if you decide to stay in your home and you have a mortgage.. and this is if you have gotten any money from a life insurance policy which will let you do this. Is to pay off your house. They took a poll on women that were widowed.. and it was several yrs later.. they said the best decision they ever made was to pay their house off. It took a huge load off their shoulders not having that mortgage payment. And then if they decided to move they could sell their home and be able to take that money and buy something smaller or move near their children.
Okay, I hope this helps a little. I can't imagine how hard this is for you. I can't imagine how hard it would be for me if my husband Paul was gone. I will pray for you and your family. I know I am new here, but if you need anyone to talk too I am here.
Where are you located? I am in Springfield, Illinois. But have lived all over. Starting with my home state of Wisconsin, California, Minnesota, Florida, Kentucky, Georgia, North Carolina, Arkansas, and now Illinois.
Sorry for your loss.
God Bless!
Stacy Troutman
-------------------- Life isn't measured by how many breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.