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No practical advice from me on finding a counselor (I'll leave that to the other ladies who know better), but I just wanted to say....there is no way you could have "ruined" your boyfriend. We ALL have tough times....and people who love us just naturally become affected by that too. Making yourself happy and well will in turn make Adrian happy too. Believe me---I've been there. I'm happily married but that doesn't mean we haven't had our strained, emotional times (and Yes, I too have said....maybe you shouldn't have married me!)....but my husband convinced me that he just wanted us to be a good team again, and fill our lives with positivity.
And that's what you need too. And you CAN do that, and getting help is a responsible, smart idea. You've been under a lot of stress, you don't have a totally stable living arrangement (at least not one you like) and those are hard situations to build a life around. Once your world is stable, things will settle down, life will become more peaceful, and your relationship with Adrian will improve.

Don't beat yourself up, lady!!

Ginger

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