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I started dating Erin last Sept-Octoberish, and it really came out of the blue. I was just back from Chicago and had a couple of days before starting classes again, when I ran into a friend of her's, Sara, at the university who I hadn't seen since I left four years prior. We ended up talking, catching up, etc., and she mentioned that I should give Erin a call because her boyfriend dumped her suddenly a couple weeks back on her birthday and she thought that I could offer some support.

The backstory to this is that I originally met Erin while I was volunteering as an organist at a church in Dartmouth. Every year they had talent shows to raise some money, and I ended up accompanying her on a couple of songs she was singing. We really got to know each other better when she was in Grade 12 and I was in my 3rd year of university, because she was interested in doing auditions for a university music programme in piano, but her current teacher didn't feel she was up to teaching the repetoire. She knew that I taught and approached me about it. For the next four to five months we worked hard on putting together a programme of pieces basically from scratch, but it was all worthwhile in the end as she was accepted to the music programme at Acadia University. During all this time though, there was no real 'spark' or anything that would have led me to believe that we would date later on.

Five years later, she had graduated with a degree in music and spent a year teaching at a studio, and I came back from Chicago where I had been working for four years. I took Sara's advice and called her up, we went out and things went (unexpectedly) very well. It turned out that she was mostly over the prior relationship, so instead of me listening to her talk about it we just chatted about a whole pile of different things, eventually closing the bar we went to. We ended up going out a few more times and eventually started dating seriously.

Completely unexpected, but that's the way it works sometimes. I wouldn't worry about not dating someone in a half-year - as the saying goes, it's better to be happy and independent than miserable in the wrong relationship. You seem to have a lot of things going for you, so it will just take that one special guy to recognize that, and the rest, as they say, will be history.

- Vincent

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