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Hi Bev,
Nice to hear from you!!
You know what's funny? I can't believe that my biggest complaint about my boyfriend is that he is so tidy! It seems like such a GOOD thing but it has just gotten so out of control.. It feels like it's not that HE is tidy, it's that _I_ am not tidy enough and it is causing problems.
I wish I could understand what it feels like, I imagine it's a lot worse for Adrian.. and for you too than it is for the people like me. It must be a nightmare, as anything that makes anyone anxious and stuff is, to be so intent on everything being perfect all the time.

I know how hard this move is for Adrian, that is why I am venting on here rather than having a little temper tantrum in front of him. I am hoping that once he adjusts and settles down, our home will be more much relaxed and harmonious.. and I am definitely willing to give it time for that to happen. I don't want to make him more stressed, or jump down his throat, or make his stress about how it makes ME feel.. but sometimes I do need a little vent!

I think what worries me is this: I stress about basically everything. One thing I DON'T stress about is being ultra neat and tidy all the time (I am very worried about things being CLEAN, but not so much tidy if that makes sense). If this turns into such a big part of our lives permenantly as it is right now, I just don't know that I can handle it. It makes him irritable with me, it makes me feel tense and it makes me feel like I can't take 30 seconds to relax in my own home. I am scared it will get worse, but I need to put worrying about it aside for now.
Thanks for the advice, and all the support you have always given me.
**big hugs**
--Steph

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