to be honest at first I wasn't sure. I wanted to sleep in the same bed because I just felt closer. I am also more of a touchy person than he is so I guess that is why I had a harder time with it. But now I see his side of it and how we both need our sleep (the little that I am able to get). I guess we are a little selfish. I would not want to wake up to an alarm at 4am when I don't have to get up until 8. Just like he wouldn't want to have me toss around when he is going to bed and I stay up late. I don't feel like it has affected us at all outside of sleeping. We get along great and spend plenty of awake time together. Plus I get ym own closet and can decorate however I want to. Nobody is perfect but you have to find what works for both of you, for some it doesn't. Hope you find the answer you need about your relationship sara-sage, we cannot help you with that only help you as you find it yourself. You probably know in your heart what you want, just afraid of what it brings. Take Care