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Hi guys,
I think we've talked about this before, but I have found lately that I have had real trouble saying "no" to people, especially surrounding doing stuff that maybe I should take a pass on when I don't feel well. Like the other day I was being sick alllll morning, and even though I made suggestions that I didn't want to go out to Costco with my mom, she sort of ignored it and I went anyway.. and ended up stuck in the bathroom for like half an hour!
And when I was really feeling yucky from the side effects of the new meds, I went out for dinner to a family friend's house and couldn't eat anything and ended up needing a lift home right after everyone finished eating after sitting there feeling awful for an hour and a half.
Now tonight we are supposed to go out to eat (man, my family goes out for food a lot!) and Adrian said to me, "You just have to say no, you need time to chill out so just put your foot down" but that hadn't even occured to me.. I was like, "It's dinner with my grandparents, I HAVE to go". We are going for pasta, which might be okay for my IBS.. but might not.. BUT I would just feel so much more comfy if I could stay in and not have to worry about anything for a few days.
My mom asked me again today to go to a linen store, and seemed annoyed when I said no.. but I just want to be able to lie around and have some relaxing time before my life gets thrown into chaos on Tuesday when school starts, and then even moreso once I find a new job.
Has anyone else figured out a good way to say no to family without causing a bunch of upset? I am having a hard time dealing with all these obligations that I never had while I was away..
Thanks guys!
--Steph

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~~I'm not crazy, I'm just a little unwell-I know right now you can't tell~~Matchbox 20
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