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It's hard to find a logical reason why a person in a position of authority is being illogical. But I'd latch onto the example you gave. It doesn't sound reasonable, does it?? but it does happen that an unpopular chick will find resolve and closure in penalizing a popular student. Fair? NO way. But you can't win here, and as sucky as it sounds, you have to deal with it. Take the moral ground and forget about it. It's not your fault she wasn't invited drinking when she was 20. Keep your head down and act the goody two shoes from now on.

I actually used to change clothes (CHANGE CLOTHES!) before my calculus II class, cos my (male) teacher was such a puritan. I'm talking high collars and long skirts to the ground I wore here. F'ed up. But he reacted badly to bare legs. So covered up I was. And I became a really revered student. Cause he liked the stay at home girls. But an A is an A, and I know girls who have prostituted their way to the same grade in very different ways. Again, f'ed up? Yeeeeess. Can I tell you working in the office world is different? I wish I could. Keep in mind we have it better than in the "slap and tickle '50's." But crap is crap, and human relationships, be them student-teacher or whatever, well, it's a matter of life and it really doesn't change when you grow up.

Don't talk to her, put yourself in her shoes. She doesn't want to be talked to, she wants to be feared/revered/proven right. Take the high ground and be the student she wants, at least in the classroom. Monsters like her can't be reasoned with.

You're going to have a much better life than she is. I can see it in you that you're positive, hard-working and sincere. Take comfort in that! I would have treated you differently.

~nelly~

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