Ok girls, I need some help. Am I being too sensative? As many of you know, this has been a very difficult year. On top of my "problems" (miscarriages, ibs, ankle sprain, rsd, etc!!) my husband started his own business about 2 years ago. He works from home rapairing, modifying and designing pro-audio gear. He works 6-7 days a week and works long hours. The business is doing ok, we are not getting rich by any means but are able to pay all the bills without too much of a struggle.
Since I hurt my foot, I have had to rely on him to do the cooking and take care of me. We have had a cleaning service come in every couple of weeks to do the big cleaning but he has to do laundry since its in the basement. He has to get my breakfast and dinner. Get my bag packed for work and do the grocery shopping. I realize this is a lot to ask of him but we don't have any family in the area or anyone else to help us out. He has made several comments that really hurt my feelings. Things like, this certain client didn't get his gear when he needed it because he was to busy waiting on me. He seems like he resents me for getting hurt.
I have mentioned this to him recently but I don't think he understands. We just got in a fight on the phone and I'm not sure what to do. I feel that family should be the most important thing and he feels like his business should be more important. I just asked him what would happen if I got in a car accident or something really serious and he said he didn't know! He said he knows he doesn't like to be a caregiver but that he gave his vow of for better or worse and he plans on trying to stick by that. Whats going to happen when we do have a baby?? I haven't complained at all that we haven't had ANY quality time together in a long time. Even at night he is usually in the basement working! I know that if something happened to him that I would be there for him but I don't feel that is true for me.
He made thanksgiving dinner with turkey and a chocolate pie but than he says things like "taking care of you for a couple of weeks was fine but I can't do it anymore!" Whats that supposed to mean? I'm really beginning to question my marriage. I don't feel like we connect anymore. Am I expecting too much?? Please help, I just can't stop crying!
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