Hey, Brooklyn Barbie!! It's your neighbor in Manhattan!!
I was going to say exactly the same thing as Amie, it sounds like he might be suffering from clinical depression. That's often the way that men show it. Unfortunately if he's not receptive to the suggestion, there's not a lot you can do about it.
I hear ya about the previous abusive marriage. What's weird is that I also used to be in an abusive marriage -- to the same guy I'm still married to!! Andy used to be very critical and controlling and angry. The good news is that as I changed in terms of my reactions to him, he changed too. As far as the housework, divide up the chores and then just DONT EVER DO HIS!!! If you give in even once and do something because you just can't stand it anymore, he'll win.
Good luck, sweetie, and come ramble any old time. Better sharing it here than losing it with him. That just makes him feel more guilty and depressed. I feel for you both, but relationships are worth working on. Andy and I are soulmates, best friends, companions, and primary emotional support for each other. I don't know how I could live without him. Thank God I never left him. Give it another try, sweetie. And don't give up 5 minutes before the miracle, like I almost did!
{{{{HUGS}}}}}
-------------------- Laura
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