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Trust me...I know how you feel! I lost my best friend last year to his girlfriend/wife now. He really wrestled with it for a couple of years by kind of balancing us but then when they got married, I talked to him a couple of times after that, but he never returned my calls or emails after a couple of months. He told me basically, "married people can't have more than one man/women in there life" We were best friends for 2 years and I still miss him from time to time, especially when something big happens in my life. We were so close, and I truly loved him. I have also recently gotten married and he didn't even know about it, don't know if he ever found out! I do think that maybe you should all 3 hang out or double date so that she can feel more secure about the 2 of you being friends. I can kind of also see how she felt by me being a girl so I try not to be too hard on her, they seem to be happy now from what I have heard, but I wish I had tried harder to make her feel secure and then maybe I wouldn't have lost his friendship. I try to put myself in her place, I know it's hard though. Maybe if you invited her along when the two of you go out and talked to her and included her she would be able to be your friend as well. Who knows?!? Keep in mind, all women want to be there mates best friend so that is what kept me trying to understand her! I guess I have wrestled with this alot, felt mad, guilty, angry, hurt. Pretty much all of it. There were times also where I felt like I had feelings for him but I never told him, he was the one constant man in my life for a while. Tell him how you feel about not losing his friendship. I really do miss him though and hope that you don't have to go thru that! I have thought about contacting him, but I don't want to cause him problems and I don't want to make him upset, I try to remember also that she didn't make him end our friendship, so I am a little upset at him too. He could have kept our friendship going, I hurt to know that his relationship meant more to him than our friendship. Tell him how you feel while you still have the chance! And try to make an effort with her, if you can stomach it! LOL!!!!That's the best advice I know! Good luck!

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