This may sound incredibly simple, but I'm keeping it a matter of Geography, these days. Where they are, I'm not!
I won't be defined by them (and, haven't been for years), therefore, the spiritual distance doesn't cause sorrow. It gets to a point where it is simply a matter of self-preservation. And, it seems it's been in the same in employment...if you don't like the management at your job, work somewhere else.
Hopefully this gives a little insight into the detachment. It's a matter of practice in that in the Taoist ideology one wants to "cleave without cutting." In other words, no need for a messy scene, I just refuse family gatherings.
To quote a line from Billy Joel's song Careless Talk: Let them stand where they fall/they don't know us at all/and all that talking won't make a difference to me.
Or, in other words, walking away from a dysfunctional situation to save one's sanity. It's a good thing to do for one's health and one's holiday. I'll be spending Xmas doing service work (charity) as opposed to getting stressed out and then symptomatic for a week after being with my family.
Hope you have peace this holiday.
Dumas.
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