Recently, I've had to lean on the concept of "detachment with love" in regards to toxic "associates" and many of my dysfunctional family relationships.
It's not easy, but the ignorance I've dealt with in regards to my mental and physical health issues (from which many of these people have had a direct cause and effect dynamic) has led to this detachment. To stay in contact with certain people in my life (be it through direct speech or simply having them on my mind) would further burn holes in my esophagus and puff out my gut. I won't even go into how it effects the depression. Too fatalistic... and, there's little point in expressing any of those defeating thoughts.
I pray everyday to my Higher Power, God, or other preferred moniker, that my relationships will improve with these people, yet they don't. My annoyance turns to exasperation, then to infuriation till it's simple a matter of not having the energy to pursue the relationship anymore.
These are primarily matters of health -both mental and physical...and therefore leads me to groups and wellness "endeavors."
I'm simply a communicative man. Maybe moreso than most men. Yet, when the simple lifeline of communication in my relationships is tampered with for too long, I have to cut the person loose. This has been the underlying direction of many of my relationships for the past few weeks.
This type of social renewal is practiced by me from time to time and is liberating, a little scary, and yet exciting at the same time. Funny how Kenny Rogers put it, "Every gambler knows that the secret to surviving is knowing what to throw away and knowing what to keep."
Thanks for reading this and I hope it makes sense and that it was expressed correctly. I pray alone due to the concept of "how I understand God," and, therefore, usually don't have others to express these thoughts to...
Thank you for reading my posts. They're like prayers in themselves and I'm grateful to share them with you.
Truly, Bob.
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