Doe, about using milk substitutes... there are some GREAT ones out there! I used to be a dairy addict until IBS hit, it is my biggest trigger. Tyr Vitasoy lite vanilla, it has the added benefit of being lower in fat than other brands. If you need something REALLY vanilla-y, try SoyDream vanilla. It is alittle too sweet for my tastes, though. Both can be found at most grocery stores. Don't make the mistake I did and try regular soymilk that isn't flavored- YUCK! Smells and tastes horrible, but great for cooking! Oh, and my GI told me I was lactose intolerant and to try lactaid... only worked for alittle while, and then I still got sick. In Heather's info she explains that us IBSers have trouble digesting the milk proteins (whey and casein), that is why lactose - free stuff won't help any. Hope I was of help! If only I knew before what I was missing out on in the world of soy products! P.S.- try Soy Silk choclate milk- Yum! (vanilla isn't very good, though)