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Dear Michelle,

"but in some ways I still think I "did it to myself" by getting so worked up about everything I was expected to accomplish, and by the pressure I put on myself to do it all completely without help and perfectly, with no problems".

I feel like learning this sentence off by heart, it describes in such perfect words how it all started for me, too. Why do so many women get caught in this same old trap?? Why do we always have to MOVE around when we have little children, leaving our infrastructure behind? And why do we behave as if coping with little babies all on our own and without any hickups is the normal thing to be expected?? This is exactly how my IBS got started (in the US actually), I've only got two kids but once they were bigger I got myself into the next trap, trying to be a successful WORKING mom....

I can relate to the weight issue - I'm shocked sometimes when I realise that, secretly, I appreciate my thin, transparent looks, even though I know that I should definitely put on a few pounds. But thank God I'm past the 'fear of food' stage, and I got to the point where I absolutely HATED the feeling of wasting away, and I do cling to my safe foods and eat all the time even if it's only rice cakes most of the time....

I'd like to reassure you, I've got anorexic people in my family (one has actually died of it), and the one, terrible, thing about them is that they can NEVER admit their problem to themselves. So, you might have looked into the abism there but you've stepped back from it and you're already on the way of getting better! I'm absolutely sure of it!

Susaloh

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