Daisy, you're not whining at all. You're venting. Regardless, you're entitled!
Is your hubby supportive of you and your situation? Does he want you to get better and does he try to help you? You need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel. Be honest with him -- he's your husband. He's not going to think you're "whacko" when you do it with caring and consideration for him, congratulating him for his successful surgery and being able to eat anything he wants.
There's no reason why hubby can't go to Dairy Queen with your son and splurge to their hearts content. You're not trying to deny him the pleasures of life, just because you can't have them. I'm sure he would want to reciprocate. And the way he can do that is to support you and help you -- and the way to help you is not to eat things in front of you that he knows you cannot have. If he doesn't know that you cannot have them, then you have to tell him.
Also, you could make goodies like ADBs and RKTs -- IBS-safe things that you can have WITH hubby and your son, and you can all enjoy it together.
I'm extremely lucky because my hubby not only is supportive, but he wants to do every single thing I do -- including eating and drinking. When I had to give up coffee for my IBS, he gave it up too. When I got diverticulosis (yep, I have it too) and had to cut out all nuts and seeds, he cut them out too. When I started on the IBS diet, he did too.
I often encourage him to go out to the local espresso stand and get himself a coffee -- and drink it on the way back home (drink it ALL, before he gets home). I've even told him to get himself a chocolate donut while he's at it. Just don't bring it back home with him.
He doesn't mind, not in the least, because he wants to help me and be supportive. When I wanted to do Michael's hypnotherapy program, I needed peace and quiet. Hubby wanted to help me, so every night he left the condo (we only have 2 rooms!) and went to the library, so that I could be totally alone with Michael. By helping me, my hubby was helping himself -- because the hypnosis "cured" me of my anxiety, and now I'm able to go places and do things with hubby, unlike before the hypnotherapy program when I was totally house-bound.
Talk to your hubby, tell him your concerns, be honest with him. Above all, DON'T let the resentment build up; it's the worst thing you could do.
Good luck -- and keep us posted.
Bev
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